I wish I had a different story. I wish it
wasn’t one of horrific pain that left my life in a pile of ashes, filled with shame
and sorrow. But I don’t have a different story.
What I do have, however, is the power to decide how my story will end.
What I do have, however, is the power to decide how my story will end.
Today I look at myself in the mirror and choose
not to be a victim any longer. Today I choose healing. Today I choose life. I’m
a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I tell my story hoping that others will
feel encouraged to start their own conversation, and eventually, gain
empowerment to overcome.
My story is unique to me, but it is not
uncommon. One night I went to sleep with the carefree innocence of a
ten-year-old girl, and the next morning I awoke with agonizing shame and
confusion. My father, childhood hero by day, had become my perpetrator by
night.
Over the next seven years, I was sexually
molested, but I never told anyone. I believed that if I quietly endured the
assaults, I would spare my other siblings from experiencing the same fate. Ah, the
fantasies of children.
I spared no one a thing.
Today, I can’t be silent. A silent survivor can’t
help anyone break free from the despair of abuse. I shatter the silence to
break the grip of shame that had me bound by secrecy.
Because we can be healed from the
trauma of sexual abuse.
6 Steps to Shattering the Silence of Abuse…
1. Secure your Safety
If you’re in immediate danger or fearful for your
or others safety, contact emergency services immediately. They will help you
secure a place of safety.
2. Share your Secret
Telling your secret is powerful. It releases
pent-up hopelessness and despair, and many survivors feel better right away.
Choose someone you can talk to who is safe, like a friend, pastor, counselor, family
member, or medical professional.
3. Seek Medical Support
If you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused,
seek medical help and support. You will not only receive appropriate medical
care if you need it, but you will also find valuable support, such as
counselors, guidance, and resources.
4. Stay Grounded in Reality
Trust yourself. It’s common for an abuse
survivor to question themselves about their abuse after they begin to talk
about it. If someone has assaulted you or is abusing you, it’s difficult to
feel confident about what to do next, and victims can slip into denial. Stay
focused and remember it’s never
ok for someone to assault or abuse you for any reason.
5. Start Your Journey
Healing is a process. The journey to wholeness
takes time, so be patient with yourself. Keep talking, sharing, and clarifying
the truth about your abuse. Resist the fear to stop the process and return to a
place of isolation. Healing is on the other side of the journey.
6. Speak and Stand
Don’t be afraid to know your legal rights. Help
can still be yours, even if your trauma took place years ago, or you choose not
to take it to the law. You can still be aware of what the law says and what options
you may have.